My son just turned two years old in October, but has been in the “terrible twos” stage for at least the last four months. As his language and strength develops he has really been testing his limits. If he is not getting his way, here comes the tantrum. I honestly think little boys are bolder and more rambunctious than little girls. With Maxwell I am struggling to keep myself from not screaming and flipping out. But I know that soon we will get through this rough time. With being in quarantine and limiting our activities I have had to get creative.
What are the Terrible Twos?
I would define the terrible twos as constant tantrums, physical aggression- kicking, hitting, scratching, biting, and defiance. Along side with being overly curious, for instance getting into mommy’s makeup drawer. All of those nuisances that toddlers from 18 months to three years old do. A time where you notice a new gray hair every now and then.
Why does this happen?
Toddlers have not fully developed self-control therefore they go to what they know- having a fit. It is a way to show that they are stressed. Toddlers want to imitate their older siblings or even you. When your little one realizes they do not have the same abilities, that can cause frustration. Initiate the terrible twos. For both Maxwell and I, it has been a time of learning and development. I see that he is learning what behaviors are rewarded and which are not. He is developing better communication skills, even if it is crying and talking at the same time. I am learning to better handle my emotions towards him and try to be a good role model in the process.
Ways to calm terrible twos
Trust and believe I am not a baby whisperer. I just know what works for my family and maybe it can work with yours as well. What I have learned is that trying to reason with them during a meltdown has very little effect. When Max goes into screaming mode, at home, I ignore him. I have to get my own mind right first, by taking a few deep breaths and walking away if I need to. Scientist believe mirror neurons play a part in helping your child be calm. If your toddler sees and feels that your are calm and unbothered, it can help settle them down. I have tried this with Max and most of the time it does work, but there are times when he is just not having it. I also believe in STEAM activities for little ones. Max likes to help me make basic box recipes like pancakes and muffins and anything with M&Ms. He also likes to draw which is a good creative outlet for him. Also I find when I’m in the kitchen and need him out of the way, I’ll give him an easy snack he can eat and still watch me. Of course this does not solve every tantrum, but it does keep him busy. For more tips on getting through with your toddler and older kids, check out my post on Zulily for how we are surviving during this new normal.
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